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How To Assist Your Partner To Achieve His or Her Goals

When you think about achieving goals, you should not just concentrate on your own self; you should also pay attention to your partner’s goals. Are you wondering how you can help your loved one achieve their goals?

Scientific evidence shows that relationship partners can play an important role in assisting or hindering the progress of achieving each other’s goals. Here are a few tips that have been scientifically proven as effective in assisting your partner.

[su_quote class=”cust-pagination”]Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all.” — Deborah Day [/su_quote]

Encourage Your Partner 


People feel really encouraged to achieve their goals in areas such as career, school, friendship, and fitness, especially when the encouragement comes from romantic partners.

Don’t Let Your Partner Be Hindered By Obstacles

Never hinder your partner with any obstacles; rather, help him or her to overcome the obstacles. Ignoring any obstacles blindly is a mistake.

Strategize With Your Partner

If your partner has a desire to exercise more, you should help them to come up with a specific plan by focusing on realistic goals. The strategy should be creating a plan that is specific to the kind of your partner’s desire after considering every minute detail.

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Assist Your Partner to Avoid Activities That Will diminish Their Willpower

Exerting self-control over a single activity will use all your partner’s resources, making it difficult for them to muster the willpower needed for other tasks. For instance, a person who is studying for an exam is likely to take unhealthy foods from the refrigerator or have a late night snack. This is because he or she does not have the willpower to select healthier foods.

Therefore, if you want your partner to achieve his or her goals, besides motivation, you should help him,or her avoid certain activities that will deplete their willpower. People who are trying to quit smoking are better advised not to socialize with people who smoke. The interactions between the two of you can also drain your partner’s willpower.  Therefore, you should exercise caution.

Do Not Exercise Unnecessary Control

Trying to control your partner’s actions can be detrimental as it might give your partner the feeling that they are under threat. This is similar to a child who desperately wants to engage in a particular activity because it has been forbidden for some reason. When you try to control your partner, you are restricting their freedom. Research has proven that controlling a partner will lead them to behave in the opposite direction, which will be deterrent to the achievement of their goals.

Avoid Unnecessary interference 

There are ties when your partner does not want or need your help. Trying to interfere during such times will only threaten your partner. It may also create the impression that you perhaps don’t have enough trust in them. You should try to stay away without interfering at ties.


Be Subtle

Sometimes, people respond negatively when other people try to help them. Therefore, make an effort to extend your help indirectly. When your partner does not realize that you have helped them, it prevents the negative consequences of feeling controlled or threatened. He or she can be anxious when they develop the feeling you are helping them.

[su_quote class=”cust-pagination”]“Your small support could accomplish a big dream.” — Mohammad Rishad Sakhi


If you want to assist your partner in achieving his or her goals, the tips above will be helpful.

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