Disappointed with Your Career? These Awesome Tips Will Turn It Around!
Careers are amazing, aren’t they? Not only are they full of awesome moments (especially when we all have a laugh about something amusing at the office), but they certainly give us something to wake up to every morning!
That being said, careers aren’t all that awesome. Indeed, our careers do have their downfalls. Especially when we have to deal with an annoying colleague who seems to have a knack for getting all up in our faces!
Then there’s the stress that comes with having to get projects done in due course to ensure that quotas, goals, or objectives are met. Such problems, if not checked on time, can lead to high levels of stress, and even the feeling of quitting!
Keeping this in mind, we’ll be looking at some of the ways we can make a U-turn on the negative attitudes and behaviors we have regarding our career.
Let Go of All the Negatives and Focus on the Path
It’s normal to feel frustrated about our career at some point in our lives. In fact, career setbacks are bound to happen at some point or another. It’s how we handle them that matters.
For example, if we start loathing a colleague and feeling jealous simply because they got the job that we dreamed of, are we doing ourselves any justice? Certainly not.
Indeed, we need to recognize these feelings and understand that they are temporary. We have the ability to reshape them.
As a matter of fact, J.D. Toni Berhnhard in an essay for Psychology Today documents how she felt betrayed by one of her friends after the friend fell for a guy and their relationship slowly vanished.
As she recalls, she felt that she didn’t want things to change between her and her friend. Nevertheless, she still wanted the relationship to be the same as it was prior to the guy coming into her friend’s life.
At times, she would have conflicting emotions such as self-blame, being fearful, and also feeling angry. However, all these feelings were increasingly unhelpful.
Thankfully, what made her transition from this state of disappointment was reshaping her frame of thought. Instead of grasping the thought that their relationship had been transformed, she accepted that their relationship was as it was now for specific reasons. Indeed, accepting that at some point or another that relationships will be fluid or transform can be vital in helping you make peace with the current setup.
Berhnhard writes that because of the situation, she was able to recognize that she has decided but at times, not all of them will be fulfilled.
With this mindset, she is now able to free herself from all her desires and ensure that she lives a peaceful life. In fact, once one is able to accept that relationships evolve, they will be able to live in the present moment and direct their attention on what they can handle next.
Which is not necessarily continuing the relationship, but changing the expectations of the relationship to enrich oneself and to also discover new people in our lives.
Analyze the Disappointment from a Deeper Point of View
When we take a step back and clear the cloud of emotions that we currently have, is when we are able to put our disappointments into greater perspective.
As soon as we relate a disappointment to a learning experience instead of a cyclical thought of depression, we can be able to understand that this uneasy feeling is actually a signal that something is amiss with our careers.
Analyze the Thoughts That We Tell Ourselves
Instead of avoiding our discomfort, we can tackle it head-on by reviewing the assumptions that we have as part of the story that we are telling ourselves. We might even find that we were jumping to conclusions about a situation that wasn’t as serious as we thought it was.
For example, if we thought that a colleague was being rude and arrogant with us, we shouldn’t automatically assume that they hate us! Before making a decision, we need to look at reasons why they were behaving in such a way in the first place.
Perhaps they were suffering from their own personal issues at home and inadvertently carried the attitude to the office!
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