How To Retain Your Composure In Stressful Situations?
One of the most unpleasant experiences most of us have is the feeling of frustration. The bits and pieces of this feeling where frustration accumulate as we go on with our day. This is why we often end up going home grumpy and nobody likes a grumpy person! The people around you will sense your mood and will wait out for the explosion. Until then, expect them to be far away from you. It only irks you even more, when people point out that you are frustrated.
Letting go of our frustration could pave the way for keeping yourself calm and relaxed.
Most of the time, we look for the solutions out of our control which is hopeless. We want other people to behave in a certain manner that is convenient for us. We want things to go the way that we would like, we are pleased when our homes and workplaces are in order. We want quiet discipline, sticking to plans, and we want less rudeness. The point is the frustration is rooted from external factors that we cannot control. What we want may not coincide with what others want. The list of the things that can make you frustrated is endless. Things would not always go the way we want it.
Solving the problem by trying to fix the external ones would be useless simply because it should come from the inside.
Start Implementing the Positive Changes In Yourself
You want others to change, start the change within yourself. You keep expecting other people to do something, change themselves and not willing to initiate it in the first place? What we want to get, what we want to practice, should be reflected upon ourselves. If you can’t do it, how on earth do you expect other people to do it?
Start Changing Your Inner Perspective
You can start by changing the response internally. When something does not go the way we imagined it, the default thought we have would be that they are the ones that need changing. Why would we, right? And since they are external factors we can’t change, we end up frustrated and surly. Try to change within with these processes:
Our habitual response has a pattern. Notice the pattern that you get frustrated and resent by wondering “Why do they do that instead of doing this?” You will end up getting frustrated, stressed, and unhappy your personal poison. This would reflect badly on the people around, they are the potential outlets. This would worsen the relationships you have worked over the years.
How do you feel about this? Will you be happy then?
Ask yourself if this is what you want and if this would help you. This is a poison to your social status and yourself. If the pattern you see is not helpful, create one that’s new. Make sure that this time, it is helpful. Be curious and open up to the things that you don’t want. Ask yourself if you could find a way or loom for an angle to be grateful for the moment.
If you find out the new pattern won’t help you along the way, create another one that works. Continue doing it until it does. Don’t expect it to be perfect on the first try, it takes practice. Don’t stay with the old pattern. Say, you have interrupted the wrong pattern and on with the new one. When you catch yourself on getting back to old issues and old patterns, stop. You can’t do your past frustrations and get back to square one.
Let the plans you have ahead be a mantra and man-up with the attitude. You can’t expect to be that good the first time.
This takes effort in practice. Forgive yourself when you forget. Setting your new pattern is enacting love for yourself by eliminating negative feelings and enhancing the good ones. The peace and calm are wonderful rewards you can get not only for yourself but also to the people that surround you. Be the awesome person that everybody wants to hang out with.
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