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How to Get Into a New Relationship after a Break-up

When a relationship ends, most people are not sure what to do with themselves. They feel depressed and think that they will never meet someone new again. Regardless of whether you’ve been with someone for a couple of years or months, the pain is still real, and your emotions are in a mess. But no matter how much it hurts, it’s important to remember that the pain will fade away, and you will be able to love and trust someone again. But it’s not easy to move on to someone new, especially if you’ve been hurt before.

Here are some pieces of advice that might help you.

 Give yourself time to heal

When you get out of a relationship, you lose someone who was a big part of your life, and it takes some time getting used to their absence. Try to spend time with yourself whole remembering what made you an individual—and not a part of a couple. Go on bike rides, visit museums and galleries, or maybe read a good book.

 Spend more time with your friends and family

These are the people who love you the most and always have your best interest at heart. You have to believe that everything they’re saying is for your own good.

“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”  ― Nicholas Sparks 

 Take up a hobby

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time? Now would be the perfect time to do it. Try painting, writing poetry, or taking photographs. Or maybe you can enroll in a class and try learning a new language, perfecting your cooking skills, or anything else you feel passionate about.

You think you’re ready for a new relationship?

That’s great. It means your healing process is complete and you’re ready for someone new. How should you go about it?

 Never go into a new relationship right away

This is what they call a rebound relationship, and it’s probably the worst thing you can get into. You’re probably not emotionally ready for a new relationship yet; maybe you are just scared of being alone or are trying to make your ex-lover jealous. For whatever reason you’re doing it, know from the start it’s a bad idea and try to avoid it.

 Try to meet someone different from your ex

Sometimes, people look for something familiar in a new partner, something that reminds them of their ex. Most people have a type, and that’s normal, but by looking for someone who’s a carbon copy of your ex, you’re setting yourself up for failure from the start.

 Know what you want

Before starting a new relationship, make sure you know what you want out of that relationship and why you want to be with that specific partner. Do they make you feel all warm inside or are you with them just to avoid feeling alone?

 Be yourself

Don’t try to be something you’re not just to make somebody fall for you. If you’re going to be with someone, they need to know and love you for you, including your flaws.

You’re in a new relationship. How do you make it last?

 Be honest with your partner

If you still have some insecurities from your previous relationship, talk about them with your new partner. Someone who’s good for you will help you get over the insecurities and make you see all the best in yourself.

 Learn from past mistakes

What made your last relationship fail? Was it something you can avoid in the new one and get a fresh start? Maybe it wasn’t enough attention, maybe you had unrealistic expectations, or you didn’t spend enough time together? Whatever it was, now you have a chance to do it all over again, but better, with someone new.

 Learn how to trust

Did your previous relationship end because of cheating or keeping secrets? If so, trusting again can be a problem, and it takes time. But it’s important to remember that people are different and you have to give your new partner a chance to prove to you that they’re trustworthy.

All in all, you should accept problems, but know they don’t mean the end. Instead, try to solve them in the most civil possible way.

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