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Are You Being Manipulated? Find Out Now!

It can sometimes be rather difficult to identify a psychological manipulator, especially if this type of manipulation has always been part of your life and if you grew up with it. All the psychological manipulators make us question everything about our thoughts and feelings. They are often highly intelligent individuals with only their selfish interests in mind, so they tend to outsmart us. Nevertheless, it is our gut feeling we should believe, our own intuition.If something feels wrong, it usually is—you should keep this in mind.

These are some of the obvious signs you are dealing with a psychological manipulator. Read them through and analyze your life. You probably know at least one person who fits the description. 

 A strange feeling of guilt

All the psychological manipulators frequently use guilt trips to make us do some things for them, things which we wouldn’t do otherwise. This is especially the case with people who are empathic or sensitive, people who care for other’s feelings and are simple-hearted and generous. Passive-aggressiveness is a common attitude of a psychological manipulator, and by using it, he can make you do almost anything.

If you notice this behavior with a member of your family or your love partner, then you should stand up straight and do what you were going to do before he made their passive-aggressive comments. Let him know you are well aware what he is doing and that you know what is best.

 They know better

Manipulators frequently use a plenitude of their ‘facts’ and ‘statistical data’ in the conversation with their ‘victims.’ That way, they are trying to show their intellectual superiority over the ‘victim.’ If you notice that someone is doing this—making up some facts and statistical data and trying to force you into believing those lies—find the proof and face him with it. Then observe the reaction — it will be a heated anger.

At the small talk situations, if you see that a specific person is taking over every single topic you suggest, leave that conversation and walk away from that person. It is better sooner than later. If you stay, you might be dragged into this whole passive-aggressive craziness.
“Just because something isn’t a lie does not mean that it isn’t deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.”
Criss Jami 

 They urge you to make a decision

Do you remember what happened the last time you made a quick decision? Well, that is the point your manipulator aims to. He may tell you: ”C’mon, do it. Do it right now. Do it today, ” and before you take the time to think and see all the aspects of the situation in question, you’ve made a decision because you believed that other person thought it through. Well, yes he surely did, but only about the benefits he will have from it, not taking your side of the bargain into consideration. Your quick decision will be good for the manipulator, but what about you? You will probably regret it afterward, but still, the manipulator will be there to comfort you and tell you something like, ”Well, it was not your fault, it was not meant to be”. And you will believe him once more. And why wouldn’t you? He is always there to play with your mind and emotions.

Can you imagine what would have happened if you had just a few moments of thought before making that urged decision?  If you just gave yourself some time to weigh all the options and used your learned information to make a decision…

 They are angry if you disagree

 Oh, no one is angrier than a psychologic manipulator when his plans are not going his way. You may have a real fight here, the one with the fists, not only using the arguments.

Those manipulative people are such that they absolutely must get their way. If not, they may start with hurtful language, calling names, then throwing things at you and what not just to scare you. They are well aware that if they go a bit crazy, they’ll get what they want.

 Conclusion

Psychological manipulators are everywhere. The best protection is listening to your gut instinct and look for all of these signs mentioned above. If your new partner was such in his previous relationship, and you know about it, you should be certain that he will repeat the patterns. Once a psychological manipulator, always a psychological manipulator! You should keep this in mind and don’t ever allow anyone to take away, or break down, your true self. You deserve more.

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