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Is Falling in Love Really Good for You? Here’s the Surprising Answer

Love has been defined and dissected a million ways. Whether it is a deep feeling or a symbol that keeps you going, it is a mystery because it makes us do the things we don’t usually do. Love makes man unpredictable.  It has been subjected to questions, doubt, and proven that even at the darkest hours, it brings light to those who find it. There are countless accounts of people who have failed in love. While it has brought nothing but pain to some people, to others, love is everything.   Thousands of years ago, humanity proved that producing offspring was not just because of man’s basic instinct. Rather, it was as a result of the ability to attach oneself to someone else on a higher emotional ground, the ability to love.

Even chemistry and biology acknowledge the benefits of being in love. People have been told to maintain relationships because love is beneficial to one’s psychological wellness.

 Science has found out that the experience of love involves hormones and neurotransmitters that affect our body systems.

The human nervous system is divided according to three professors of psychiatry, Richard Lannon, MD, Fari Amini, MD, and Fari Amini, MD in their 2001 book, A General Theory of Love. The limbic system in the brain area, which consists of anterior nuclei, limbic cortex, hippocampus, and amygdala, is affected by those closest to us. According to the book, this area has a significant effect on personality and emotional health.

Research in anxiety, depression and stress management shows proof upon exploring more of these subjects. One of the factors against mental illness is stress management or the ability to cope with stress.

 Psychiatrist John Bowlby, MD defined attachment as “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.” 

Interestingly, we can actually see evidence of these connections when we explore research in stress management, depression, and anxiety.

Allostatic load is a psychological term that was coined in the 1980s. It represents the physiological cost of chronic exposure to stress. Young and old people have lower allostatic load because they usually have positive social experiences, the support of significant others, and high levels of social integration.

 A great help in dealing with stress is being associated with others and having a loving relationship.

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Depression, anxiety disorders, and social isolation are common in the US. Getting married decreases depression in both men and women according to Health and Human Services.

Studies about the wellness of the body have shown that the support of other people can improve the conditions of people who have diseases such as cancer and heart attack because it decreases anxiety and depression.  Most of the time, therapists focus on interpersonal therapy as a solution to improve depression among adults and attachment therapy in children. The Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) concentrates on transforming relationships to make people feel safe, secure and connected. This method has been found to be substantially effective in reducing the symptoms of depression and anxiety.

 Encouraging people to be in a loving relationship can potentially improve common mental illnesses.

Man is a social creature. The humankind is strong because of the strings that tie one person to the other. Definitely, no man is an island.

Why choose not to love when this feeling can bring the best in you and improve your health? Why choose to be alone when you can find a partner to tackle life’s challenges head-on together, giving each other the will to live? Choosing to love is all you have to do and you will find the world a better place to live in. Whatever happens, love. Love because it is good for you.

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